Monthly Archives: April 2013
Before I start writing, you should know that my family, although conservative, is not “Dresses/skirts only.” I wear jeans nearly every day and I rarely wear skirts, usually only to dances. You should also know that these are my own personal opinions.
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” -1 Corinthians 6:19-20
I think it’s wrong to be hyper conservative and legalistic by telling girls that they cannot wear jeans, that they are sinning if they wear them. (By the way, they get this from the verse, “A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the LORD your God.” -Deuteronomy 22:5) I, however, am not saying that it is wrong to wear skirts all the time.
I believe it is important to dress modestly with men and young boys in mind. Their minds do tend to wander, sometimes caused by clothing that we, as girls don’t think about. “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:28 I want to take you by piece of clothing, along with my brother’s thoughts and input and tell you what WE see as appropriate or inappropriate. As a general rule, given one time by my choir instructor, “If you look in the mirror and think, ‘Man! I look hot!’ don’t wear it.” That’s not to say you can’t ever wear something nice, just watch it.
Shirts: Tank tops are the one thing I wish I could wear, because we all get hot in the summer and would love to throw on a much cooler, more comfortable tank top. I have asked my brother (16) and my dad if I could even just wear it around the house and got a no from both of them. Tank tops show your bare arms and, most of the time, your bra straps. My brother said that it gives off a bad opinion of you, and it’s distracting. When I put on a shirt I make sure it doesn’t show my shoulders, my bra straps or cleavage, or my belly.
Pants: Like I mentioned, I think we can wear pants and still be appropriate. In fact, I think that sometimes pants are even more appropriate than skirts. I don’t wear tight fitting pants, pants that show off my shape. I don’t like skinny jeans (personally, I can’t fit in them, but I don’t even like them on other girls.) I do understand wanting pants to tuck into your boots, but find some loose enough. I don’t see anything wrong with shorts, but we don’t allow them up past a few inches above your knees. Super short shorts are definitely a no no. Skirts don’t go above our knees.
Shoes: I can’t think of anything wrong with shoes, however, some people have an inch limit on heels, especially if you are also wearing a shorter skirt, because heels make your calves tighter and more attractive. I don’t wear heels, just because I don’t. Personal preference, not a conviction.
Swimsuits: If I could find one, I would wear a t-shirt while swimming, but they’re nearly impossible to find unless you’re 5. Bikinis are completely inappropriate. I mean, how’s it any different than wearing a bra and underwear out of the house??? I prefer tankinis if I can find one that fits right, or a one piece. And I always wear shorts. I feel uncomfortable if I don’t.
Tattoos, Makeup and Jewlery: I don’t agree with tattoos or piercings. “You shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves: I am the LORD.” -Leviticus 19:28 My ears are pierced. I got them pierced in grade school. I let my holes close, except they didn’t close all the way because I was able to get earrings in recently. At this point, I would not pierce them again, and likely wouldn’t allow my future children to pierce theirs. And tattoos are just dumb. Why would you inject ink into your body? And it’s a lot of work to get rid of it. And when you get old and wrinkly… Eww. I don’t have a problem with jewlery, just don’t wear a lot of it. It looks kind of ridiculous. Makeup: I wear barely any. My brother said there is nothing wrong with makeup. Just, again, don’t over do it.
Headcoverings: The Bible says to cover your head when you pray. And you are supposed to be praying constantly, therefore, you should always wear a headcovering. We don’t. I believe you can pray without your head covered. It’s not like God is going to choose to not listen to you because your head is not covered. Some friends of ours are so strict as to say that they are not allowed to pray if they don’t have a head covering on. I think that’s sad.
Modesty in Men: We so often talk about girls being modest to protect your Christian brothers. But guys are not the only ones prone to lust! Magic Mike is proof of that. I recently brought this up to my dad. I asked him why guys can wear their shirts off. He said, “Because we get hot.” I said, “Okay, girls get hot too. But why can’t we take our shirts off?” “Um, because, um, guys have an attraction to women’s chests.” “Yes, you’re right. And we respect that, that’s why we don’t take our shirts off, even if we are burning up. But girls have an attraction to guy’s chests.” “They do?” I think it has become such a part of our culture for guys to go shirtless that no one thinks about it. But what girl doesn’t blush at a picture of shirtless Channing Tatum? If guys look at a picture of a naked woman it’s called porn, but it’s more than okay for teen girls to have posters of shirtless boys all over their bedroom walls. Why in the world is this okay? Guys, we would really appreciate it if you would keep your shirts on. And Speedos and tank tops are just disgusting.
Girls and guys, you CAN be “in” and look nice, while still dressing modestly. I promise. Besides, if your future spouse is a good one, they’re gonna find what’s on the inside more attractive than the outside. Girls, check out this Modesty Survey by over 1,600 teen boys.
Jesus Calling is a devotional that was given to me by a family member as a graduation gift. I was a little skeptical of it, because as I flipped through it I realized that she wrote as if Jesus were talking to you. I don’t like it when people do that, put words in the mouth of God. I see this as blasphemous. I started to read it and changed my thoughts about it a little bit, because it kind of spoke to me where I was. But then I read this review. I HIGHLY recommend you read the review. Tim Challies gave some history of Sarah Young’s background and theology, as well as the history behind the book. I found it very interesting. I was glad that I read his review before I read any more of the book.
I was not compensated for this review.
You’ve got to admit, we’ve all had good first impressions, and BAD first impressions. Sometimes, rarely, there are amazing first impressions, the kind that you will likely not be forgetting anytime soon, that make you want to spend the entire day with those people. It’s like you’ve always known them. And sometimes, those kinds, that just make your day brighter, can also make the way you view life brighter.
Every Sunday morning our church does a time of prayer for healing down at the alter. There is a prayer team lining the bottom of the platform. People with illnesses or other problems/needs in their life who walk forward are thoughtfully placed with an appropriate couple (I.e. if it is a woman coming forward, she will likely be placed with a set of two women, a family with a married couple, etc.) They are then anointed with oil and prayed for following the example set in James 5:14-15a, “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will heal the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up.” (I should clarify that we are not in the belief that the oil heals, or that the person will be healed right away. God will heal in His timing, though not always in the way we would want. But, He DOES heal.)
My parents are on this prayer team. Every Sunday, they pray for all sorts of requests, bringing them before the Throne of God. They have a had a couple coming forward for a while now, both with terminal cancers. They have been unable to make it to the church recently, so, today we went over to their house, with a copy of today’s incredible sermon on John 5. We decided that if they couldn’t make it to church, we would bring church to them.
When we walked into their home there was a very warm and inviting welcome. It was truly incredible to hear their stories. Although they’re both in pain, more often than not, excruciating pain, such a countenance of love and joy shines on their faces. They both wore constant smiles.
You know, we all have to die. It’s part of life. Sometimes, though, it comes through much harder circumstances, such as cancer. But God uses EVERYTHING for His glory, and this couple knows that. They are using their pain as a tool, an opportunity, to do God’s will, to bring people to Him. They’re witnessing in the hospitals! They are choosing to see past the pain to the plan God has for them and the people around them. I’m sure it’s not always easy for them, but what they have done will surely be counted towards them in the end.
We went there to pray for them, but we/I got so much more out of it. I don’t believe I have honestly met a more godly couple in my life. I believe this is because they are simply trusting God for His plan for their future, whatever it may be.
If you would, join me in praying for this couple.
I am training a colt named Reddy for Senator Mike Cunningham. Reddy is a year old and has never had any training or gentling done. He has a little bit of halter training, but that’s about it. I thought I would share my progress and training methods as we grow a bond between horse and human.
Since Reddy has had little to no human contact, the first thing I am doing is to build his trust. I am trying to show him that I am safe and will not hurt him. He is very flighty and skittish. EVERYTHING scares him, like seriously, everything. A dog will sniff and he will jump across to the other end of the pen. The method I use is called the Approach and Retreat method. It is used by many natural horsemanship trainers. It was actually shown to me by a friend in an attempt to work with my own horse. And it works. It takes A LOT of time and patience. And I would advice you to not try it on a really cold day. 😉
What I do is I walk towards his head, with purpose, not sneaky. The moment he shifts his weight in any direction, I back up. When I see that he is looking at me again, I will move forward again. And so the process goes. Eventually they start to understand that you only want to do what they feel comfortable with. When you can get right up next to him without him moving, it’s time for the next step. Continue what you were doing, but this time, see if he will touch your hand with his muzzle. Eventually he will. And the best part is when you walk backwards, he walks towards you.
With Reddy it is taking a lot longer than it did with my horse, but I have made progress. He will touch his muzzle to my hand, and the other day I had my back to him, texting somebody, and he came up behind my and started sniffing me all over, touching his nose on me. It tickled pretty bad, but I knew if I laughed or moved, he would flip out and I could end up on the ground, hurting. This was a huge step forward. He still won’t let me touch him, but we’ll get there.
It doesn’t take much for me to be impressed by a Tricia Goyer book; she just has a way of completely capturing her audience. However, I was not only impressed with Songbird, no, impressed is not an adequate enough word. Simply said, I could not put it down!
Categorized as a Romantic Thriller, it has everything from a budding romance to a hold-your-breath, page-turning mystery. Set in Germany, after World War II has ended, we follow USO singer, Betty Lake and US Army Combat Photographer, Frank Witt as they join together to solve the mysterious disappearance of actress and USO singer, Kat.
The cool thing is that the WWII era is something I have never been interested in. I liked Tricia Goyer’s Amish fiction books, so I thought I would give her WWII stuff a go. She managed to keep my interest in an area I’m not interested in! That, I would say, is proof of a great author!
You can buy
Songbird: Under a German Moonon Amazon. The Kindle version costs $7.69 and the paperback costs $12.99.
I was not compensated for this review.